I’m writing this first post because if I’m going to be writing articles on what I hope will help you on your journey to “success”, it’s pretty important to get on the same page about how we define the word.
Dictionary.com (fancy source, I know) defines success as:
- the favorable or prosperous termination of attempts or endeavors; the accomplishment of one’s goals.
- the attainment of wealth, position, honors, or the like.
The problem is that there may not be a more subjective word in the English language than “success”, and this is because everyone will have a different meaning of what their attempts, endeavors or goals are. Everyone will also have a different level of satisfaction based on how much wealth, position, or honor they achieve, or they may not even be satisfied by some of those things at all.
For example, some people are heavily driven by money, while others are driven by power, respect, a good work/life balance, etc. Even within the money department itself, some might be satisfied earning $60,000 a year, while others shoot for millions of dollars or more.
The message I’m trying to get across is this: every single person on this planet is driven by different things, and different amounts of those things. No person can tell another person what they should be striving for, or how much they should be earning, or even how hard they should be working. That, in my opinion, is up to you.
And that is why I don’t buy into a great number of motivational videos and speakers. Take, for example, the famous motivational speech with the line “you have to want to succeed as much as you want to breathe” (see here). In my opinion, this is absurd. Some people simply aren’t motivated to attain extreme levels of success, whether it be in business or elsewhere. If a person is perfectly content working their 9-5 job and coming home to their family/kids/empty apartment, that is there prerogative. What may be a “boring” life in your eyes could be the ultimate “success” in theirs.
Basically, any time one of my posts or something else that you see/hear/read refers to success in YOUR life, you should have some sort of image of what YOUR success looks like. Maybe you can write down a list of things you want to attain to consider your life a success, or maybe you already have one in your head, or maybe you aren’t sure what that list would even look like.
Either way, don’t get down on yourself for not having or even knowing what your version of success is, because if we were supposed to know all of this and achieve it by the age of 25, 30, or even 50 years old, life would be…boring. As someone who is still trying to define what my perfect, successful life will hopefully look like, all I can say is that if we can keep trying to build and move down that path of success, we are taking steps in the right direction.
Let me know what you think about success, any questions, concerns or other related topics you may want to discuss.
Thanks for reading!